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Buy valium cheap, I've been learning a lot about being a parent lately (God knows I need all the help I can get), and one thing I've been wrestling with is how I respond to my daughter. As a parent there are a lot of ways we can respond to our kids when they need something, make a mistake, or act up. We can respond out of:


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  • obligation

  • fear

  • control

  • pride

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  • judgment

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And the list goes on (in fact, help me fill out the list in the Comments section of this post if you so desire). Ultimately, each of these is unsatisfactory. I'm convinced that the appropriate and God-honoring place from which we should respond to our kids is love and compassion. After all, isn't this the way God responds to us, his dearly loved children.

Beyond parenting models and approaches, which deal with specific interventions and disciplinary methods, I believe love and compassion should define our interactions with our kids, buy valium cheap. Lasix for sale, In other words, when we discipline or punish or whatever we do, we have to do so from a place of love and compassion. To give us an idea of what this looks like, Michael reminded me of what Paul writes about love in 1 Corinthians 13:

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, ordering cialis bars, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails.

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I'm sad to say those words haven't always characterized my responses to my wonderful daughter. (And, thinking holistically, those words haven't always characterized my responses to my wonderful wife, friends, family, coworkers, Online synthroid, etc.) Thankfully, we're offered grace in the face of shortcomings such as these, and we have the opportunity to extend that grace -- and love and compassion -- to our kids.

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Jason Weber recently posted this letter on the Hope for Orphans' blog Buy prozac without prescription, .  In this moving letter to his son, Joshua, written the morning of his "adoption day," Jason offers some beautiful insights about the importance of this day for Joshua and their family, as well as about the parallel meaning for all who have been adopted into the "forever family" of God.
Dear Joshua --

As I write this it is about 5:30 in the morning.  The house is very quiet right now, but it won’t be for long.  In less than three hours, you, me, your mom, and your 3 sisters (who will probably be wearing very fluffy dresses) will pile into the van to go the courthouse for your adoption day.  While you’ve been with us for just over six months already and I considered you my son the moment you arrived, there is something very important about today. Purchase nexium online, What makes today different is the fact that you being my son and me being your dad becomes FINAL. When something becomes final, rest always follows.  When God created the world and everything in it – from trees to dandelions (don’t let anyone tell you they are weeds) to the duckbilled platypus – He finished all of that and then there was rest.  When your mom and I finish a hard day of working, there is rest.  When a runner runs a race and it is finally over, he rests.

So today, when the judge hits the top of her bench with the gavel, your mother and I will take a deep breath inside and feel this great sense of peace and rest.

Josh, one of the reasons adoption is such a privilege is because when I think about the process of adopting you and your big sisters, soma discount, it helps me to understand God much better.

The Bible says this:

“God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ.  This is what he wanted to do and it gave him great pleasure.”  – Ephesians 1:5 (NLT)

There are many times when I don’t understand why God would ever want me as His son.  There is nothing special about me and I am always messing stuff up.  There are things I know He wants me to do that sometimes I am afraid to do or just too lazy to do.  But that verse tells me that He didn’t adopt me because I was good enough to be adopted by Him.  He adopted me because He just wanted to, buy prozac without prescription. He just wanted to and it gave Him GREAT pleasure.  Now, this is something I really understand.  And the only reason I understand it is because I have had the privilege to adopt you and your sisters.   Joshua, I just want to adopt you.  It gives me such great pleasure to do so.  In fact, I can’t believe I get to adopt you.  Your mom and I love you so much and we are overjoyed to be able to call you our son.  It gives us GREAT pleasure.

So with that, Lasix sale, I am going to get up and iron my shirt and get ready to take you to the courthouse, little man.  Let’s get this thing final and enjoy the rest that will come.

Love,

Your Dad

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I began thinking about my roles as a husband and father. Shane’s idea suggested that I could become a better husband and father by becoming a better being -- more mature in the faith, more spiritually formed, more like Christ. Discount propecia, I’d never thought about it that way. If you’d asked me before, I would’ve said the best way to become a better husband and father would be to read books or attend workshops on marriage and parenting. Ordering ultram online without prescription, The more I think about it, the more I think Shane is right. I can become a better husband to my wife and a better father to my daughter by growing spiritually. If the best thing I can offer them is me -- body, presence, actions, being -- then it makes sense that I work on me (for my sake and theirs).

To be honest, I haven’t figured out exactly what this looks like for me yet, cheap tramadol overnight delivery. However, I think these are some key components:


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Those are just a few. What am I missing.

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Synthroid online, I recently read this article, A heartbreaking request: Take My Child, from the Miami Herald, and I was struck once again by the extent of the devastation and hopelessness that pervades Haiti.

The realities this article reveals are shocking.  Scores of Haitian parents are convinced that there is no hope, for them or their children.  As a father, it is difficult, almost impossible, to imagine their situation.  These parents are willing to go to extreme measures to protect and provide for their children, where to buy cheap alprazolam, yet the only hope they see for their children is to say ‘goodbye’ and have someone take them to the U.S.

We who live here in the land of plenty have the opportunity and the privilege to take help and hope to Haiti.  While adoption has been and will be the answer for hundreds of Haitian children, what many thousands of Haitian children need most is for us to not be stingy with our hope, but instead take it to Haiti.  In response to the father’s plea “take my child, Cheap flagyl, ” shouldn’t we be ready with hands extended and hearts committed to reply instead, “take hold of this hope” — a hope that is “good news” both here and now and for eternity.

I, my family and my church are all prayerfully considering how we can best ‘take hope to Haiti.’  Even as the stories from Haiti cease and the images fade, I pray that we would not forget or fail to respond.  If you are interested in how your family or your church can help ‘take hope to Haiti,’ take a few minutes to learn more about the efforts of  the Haiti Orphan Relief Team, cheap cialis online.

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Two stick figures pointing to different sections on Maslow's hierarchy of Needs. One guy is adopting to get self-actualization and esteem and the other guys to provide physiological and safety needs.

My wife and I adopted because we wanted another child. We suffered two miscarriages and were too afraid to keep trying at the risk of losing more babies. The prospect of adopting was a big pill for us to swallow, but, in our case, it went down smoothly enough. All of the adoptive families we knew had, to our knowledge, adopted their kids for the same reason – they wanted to be parents (or wanted to be parents again).

It wasn’t until we started diving deeper into "the world of adoption" that we began meeting people who were more mission-minded in their motivation to adopt, xanax no prescription. These were wonderful, selfless people who were great parents, Buy generic accutane, but their noble motivation made me feel small and I started taking a defensive stance. It wasn’t just adoptive parents either. I clearly remember sharing a meal with some friends who were praising us for adopting because we wanted to, not because we had to (they assumed this since we already had one biological child). I didn’t let on, but I was offended. Xanax no prescription, I felt it was better to need to adopt because raising a child in a home that has rescued him but doesn’t cherish him is tragedy.

Recently, I’ve become more of a centrist, if you will, in terms of my motivation to adopt (or foster). I’ve adopted a bit more of a missional attitude because I know kids in foster care. I have heard first-hand accounts of children in poverty who need forever families. I see these kids and I hear their stories and my heart physically hurts, phentermine cheap. The burden is real, xanax no prescription.

I have to stop and consider, "What would I save this child to. Do I want to be a dad again. Do I want to be a foster parent again?" For me, there is no longer a rigid dichotomy of needing to adopt versus wanting to adopt. My motivation is not either one of duty or one of desire. Xanax no prescription, I look at my girls – all of them, adopted and otherwise – and I realize the duty has become my desire. There is fullness in all of it.

Most parents make the choice to adopt due to infertility or miscarriage. We certainly did. And yet in our desire to have our children fit right into our family, we must not ignore where our children have come from. It is part of their story, xanax no prescription. Order lorazepam online without prescription, At the same time, an increasing number of parents are adopting because of the distress of orphans worldwide. A burden for these children will surely play a role in our next adoption (no plans yet). Where they have come from is only part of their story. Their past should not define them nor make them the ‘family project.’  These children want and need to fully belong.  They need so much more than our hospitality.

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