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Positives of Transracial Adoption

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Every now and then I get asked about the challenges of being a transracial family. You know, whether or not we get looks or comments made because my wife and I are white and our two adopted children are black? Have we experienced racism? Have we run into ‘troubles’ because we live in the South?

Of all the questions about our adoption, it is the questions about race that I find myself most passionate about answering and talking about. Race is hard to talk about for a lot of reasons.

I believe more strongly than ever that we need to get past our fear of awkwardness or whatever else it is and ask questions and have conversations about race, no matter how hard and how awkward. It is a joy to me that my children provide that opportunity and I pray that God will use it for His glory and harmony between races.

The first thing that often comes to people’s minds when it comes to transracial adoption are the negatives. It is helpful for me to realize that and know that is why people often ask. Often it is the extended family who expresses questions about it, sometimes it is felt personally. That said, I want to share some of the positives of adopting transracially.

Transracial families:

  • provide a bridge between two races
  • reflect in a small way the diversity that will be experienced in heaven
  • reveal the glory of God in diversity
  • are less likely to be color blind
  • are more focused on finding identity in Christ than in outward appearances
  • make adoption more visible bringing greater attention to the joy and the need
  • provide opportunities at a young age to talk about race
  • encourages love for all peoples despite their appearances at a young age
  • put the parents in a position to be extra-intentional in choosing friends, churches, books to read, etc.

These are a few that come to my mind, there are more I’m sure and much more can be said on this issue. If you are a part of a transracial family I would love to hear your thoughts. Or if you are just curious or have questions after reading this I’d love to hear from you as well.

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6 Comments

  1. Great post, Jason. I really appreciate your willingness (yea, desire!) to be open and honest about your transracial adoptions. The Lord has been increasingly drawing my heart that direction, and I’m excited to see how he sees fit to fulfill that.

    God bless you and your family and those who read this and think twice…

  2. Thanks for the post. Our younger two children are adopted and black. Overall people are supportive of our decision but that doesn’t eliminate some awkward moments. I’ve been talking with my parents in SC about the presidential election primary there and my father wants to speak about the problem of the “black vote” but usually stops mid-sentence for fear of offending me. I don’t mind; you just learn to overlook those moments.

  3. Hey, i am sitting in the Westin in Guatemala City right now. We’re about to meet our son tomorrow morning for the first time and bring him home on Wednesday. Just wanted to say that the site looks great and the content seems to be pretty darn solid.

    looking forward to reading more…

  4. Amen to the positives listed! Great post! One to add: Transracial families so the value of the image of God over race.

  5. My previous comment should say “show” not “so”

  6. We have two biracial children whose current ages are 21 & 17. When we adopted our two wonderful children, we were somewhat of an anomoly. We are thrilled to see so many more families embracing transracial adoption.

    Every stage of our children’s lives have brought us new sadnesses and new joys. The dating scene has its own challenges and meeting birthparents if full of emotionalism and drama. Yet God is with us each step of the way teaching us how to lean on Him for strength.