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]]> By: Matt Donovan http://adoptivedads.org/the-good-wait#comment-77 Matt Donovan Thu, 07 May 2009 16:04:59 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=145#comment-77 Waiting was hard for us as well. Adding to what David said, it was so important for us to not only "talk to ourselves," but to talk with others experiencing the same thing or who had experienced this kind of waiting before. We started attending a Waiting Families small group that met once a month, but I have known others who, much less formally, were simply proactive and reached out to people they knew in order to "wait well" as Scott put it. If you are waiting, I encourage you to seek the company of people who know what you're going through. You do not have to go it alone. Waiting was hard for us as well. Adding to what David said, it was so important for us to not only “talk to ourselves,” but to talk with others experiencing the same thing or who had experienced this kind of waiting before.

We started attending a Waiting Families small group that met once a month, but I have known others who, much less formally, were simply proactive and reached out to people they knew in order to “wait well” as Scott put it.

If you are waiting, I encourage you to seek the company of people who know what you’re going through. You do not have to go it alone.

]]> By: David http://adoptivedads.org/the-good-wait#comment-76 David Thu, 07 May 2009 01:28:35 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=145#comment-76 You know, waiting is definitely hard. We started an adoption from China in February 2006, and are still waiting. We started our second adoption from Ethiopia in February 2008, and completed is nine months later to the day. We had to tell ourselves that life went on during the wait...so whether we chose to mope around or whether we decided to live life was up to us. We decided (for most of the time) to live. At the time, I was the Young Adult Minister at our church (now am Min. of Communications), and it was definitely hard when so many people were pregnant all the time...but you just have to decide that "my problems aren't other people's problems." It's a constant proccess of talking to yourself, for sure. You know, waiting is definitely hard. We started an adoption from China in February 2006, and are still waiting. We started our second adoption from Ethiopia in February 2008, and completed is nine months later to the day.

We had to tell ourselves that life went on during the wait…so whether we chose to mope around or whether we decided to live life was up to us. We decided (for most of the time) to live.

At the time, I was the Young Adult Minister at our church (now am Min. of Communications), and it was definitely hard when so many people were pregnant all the time…but you just have to decide that “my problems aren’t other people’s problems.”

It’s a constant proccess of talking to yourself, for sure.

]]> By: Scott Klamert http://adoptivedads.org/the-good-wait#comment-75 Scott Klamert Thu, 30 Apr 2009 02:14:32 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=145#comment-75 Very good wisdom in this post! Waiting was the hardest part. Our first adoption took over a year and the second one was quick. Thanks to our agency we spent our time "waiting well" and educated ourselves by reading all the resources recommended by our angency as well as everything else we could find about adoption. You can't become too educated when it comes to adoption so read and ask questions. The only wasted time spent was painting the nursery pink and then having to turn around and paint it blue as God had a boy in mind for us and not a girl. Very good wisdom in this post! Waiting was the hardest part. Our first adoption took over a year and the second one was quick. Thanks to our agency we spent our time “waiting well” and educated ourselves by reading all the resources recommended by our angency as well as everything else we could find about adoption. You can’t become too educated when it comes to adoption so read and ask questions. The only wasted time spent was painting the nursery pink and then having to turn around and paint it blue as God had a boy in mind for us and not a girl.

]]> By: Scott http://adoptivedads.org/the-good-wait#comment-74 Scott Wed, 22 Apr 2009 03:51:07 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=145#comment-74 My family has been in the waiting stage for about 6 months now, and it is very difficult at times. Thanks for the encouragement to make the most of this time by "waiting well." My family has been in the waiting stage for about 6 months now, and it is very difficult at times. Thanks for the encouragement to make the most of this time by “waiting well.”

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