The IDEAL Response for Parents
Discipline. It’s something that our kids need, but often times we as parents don’t know the best way to provide it. As I’ve read Dr. Karyn Purvis’ book, The Connected Child, and learned from her insight, I have come to understand just how important it is for me as a dad to respond to my children in ways that deepen and strengthen my connection with them, not just changes their behavior.
That is what the IDEAL response is all about. Take a few minutes to watch this short video that explains the IDEAL response, and then try it with your kids (whether they are adopted or not). When I am consistent to respond to my kids in this way – both in terms of correcting bad behavior as well as praising them for what they do well – it makes a huge difference. In the end not only is the behavior changed, but we are both more content and our connection to one another is strengthened.