Ordering Tramadol Without Prescription - Lowest Prices Guaranteed http://adoptivedads.org/when-adopting-or-fostering-wasnt-your-idea Adoption, Foster Care & Fatherhood Mon, 08 Mar 2010 22:17:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Ordering Tramadol Without Prescription - Lowest Prices Guaranteed http://adoptivedads.org/when-adopting-or-fostering-wasnt-your-idea/comment-page-1#comment-824 CC Fri, 18 Dec 2009 15:25:07 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=422#comment-824 You know that feeling when you have been placed "on hold"? That is how I feel. My husband says that he is willing to adopt, but he puts me on hold all the time. When we finally get some paperwork filled out or another decision made we stop and go into the holding pattern. He says that he has prayed about it and I trust that he has; but I feel like he still hasn't given up on us getting pregnant. It would take a miracle for that to happen. I know God does miracles, but I really feel that the Holy Spirit has told my soul that giving birth isn't going to happen for us. I am so great with this feeling, in fact, it is very peaceful to know this in my soul. I just wished that I could get my husband to feel that same peace in his soul, so that we can move forward to becoming parents. He will be an awesome, patience, and loving father! I can't wait! You know that feeling when you have been placed “on hold”? That is how I feel. My husband says that he is willing to adopt, but he puts me on hold all the time. When we finally get some paperwork filled out or another decision made we stop and go into the holding pattern. He says that he has prayed about it and I trust that he has; but I feel like he still hasn’t given up on us getting pregnant. It would take a miracle for that to happen. I know God does miracles, but I really feel that the Holy Spirit has told my soul that giving birth isn’t going to happen for us. I am so great with this feeling, in fact, it is very peaceful to know this in my soul. I just wished that I could get my husband to feel that same peace in his soul, so that we can move forward to becoming parents. He will be an awesome, patience, and loving father! I can’t wait!

]]> Ordering Tramadol Without Prescription - Lowest Prices Guaranteed http://adoptivedads.org/when-adopting-or-fostering-wasnt-your-idea/comment-page-1#comment-822 denise Fri, 18 Dec 2009 14:41:05 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=422#comment-822 Although adopting was initially my idea (wife), it meant a lot to me that my husband prayed over the decision, was willing to endure endless hours of my dreaming, ranting, and scrolling through pictures on the TARE website. Yes, I am the one who filled out most of the forms and made sure we had our ducks in a row to move forward. Now that we have adopted, my husband is raring to go again (and buy a 12 passenger van)... and this time I'm the one tapping the brakes! I really appreciated the section about "gut check". I think God gives us intuition for a reason, and we shouldn't be so quick to discount our spouse's hesitations (or motivation). Although adopting was initially my idea (wife), it meant a lot to me that my husband prayed over the decision, was willing to endure endless hours of my dreaming, ranting, and scrolling through pictures on the TARE website. Yes, I am the one who filled out most of the forms and made sure we had our ducks in a row to move forward. Now that we have adopted, my husband is raring to go again (and buy a 12 passenger van)… and this time I’m the one tapping the brakes!

I really appreciated the section about “gut check”. I think God gives us intuition for a reason, and we shouldn’t be so quick to discount our spouse’s hesitations (or motivation).

]]> Ordering Tramadol Without Prescription - Lowest Prices Guaranteed http://adoptivedads.org/when-adopting-or-fostering-wasnt-your-idea/comment-page-1#comment-721 alex Fri, 13 Nov 2009 18:15:34 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=422#comment-721 For me I really wanted to be a parent and share with a child. We had tried to get pregnant for sometime and the process was actually emotionally hurting us on a monthly bases. I simply wanted to be a parent. I wasn't connected with the "birthing process" at all, but as a male I don't think I will ever understand a females attachment with that like they do. I became really interested in the process of adoption once I got past the myths about it. Just as you have writen on other posts there is a ton of myths. I wouldn't say the process was easy but I wouldn't call it scary either. For me I really wanted to be a parent and share with a child. We had tried to get pregnant for sometime and the process was actually emotionally hurting us on a monthly bases. I simply wanted to be a parent. I wasn’t connected with the “birthing process” at all, but as a male I don’t think I will ever understand a females attachment with that like they do.

I became really interested in the process of adoption once I got past the myths about it. Just as you have writen on other posts there is a ton of myths. I wouldn’t say the process was easy but I wouldn’t call it scary either.

]]> Ordering Tramadol Without Prescription - Lowest Prices Guaranteed http://adoptivedads.org/when-adopting-or-fostering-wasnt-your-idea/comment-page-1#comment-710 Matt Donovan Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:45:58 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=422#comment-710 That's a fantastic story, Alex. It seems like it's the wife who's pushing and the husband who is hesitant/resistant. Your story is unique and I'd be interested in hearing about your initial desire to adopt. That’s a fantastic story, Alex. It seems like it’s the wife who’s pushing and the husband who is hesitant/resistant. Your story is unique and I’d be interested in hearing about your initial desire to adopt.

]]> Ordering Tramadol Without Prescription - Lowest Prices Guaranteed http://adoptivedads.org/when-adopting-or-fostering-wasnt-your-idea/comment-page-1#comment-705 alex Tue, 10 Nov 2009 18:47:33 +0000 http://adoptivedads.org/?p=422#comment-705 This is a really interesting post. My wife was not interested in adoption when I first brought it up. To her it was admitting defeat in our long challenge of trying to get pregnant along with her fear of not feeling connected with a child that she didn't give birth to. I had brought it up 4 or 5 times but was facing a brick wall on the issue. Finally I had seen a class being offered by an adoption agency in our town. The class was your run of the mill "Interested in Adoption 101". I showed my wife the class and told her that if she went with me and still was not interested then I would never bring it up again. I saw it as a way to at least move the conversation a little or wash ourselves of it. Well we went to the class which was great. We walked out and got in the car in complete silence. The whole time I was trying to figure out what to say to measure her interest. As we sat down she looked at me and said "So I guess we just fill this form out and write them a check to start the process, is that what you got out of it?" There was never ever a question from that point on about if she wanted to adopt. She jumped in with both feet. For those wondering....My wife couldn't imagine her life now without our 4 year old son and our lives going any different than they did. To this day our adoption has been the greatest thing we have ever done. This is a really interesting post. My wife was not interested in adoption when I first brought it up. To her it was admitting defeat in our long challenge of trying to get pregnant along with her fear of not feeling connected with a child that she didn’t give birth to. I had brought it up 4 or 5 times but was facing a brick wall on the issue. Finally I had seen a class being offered by an adoption agency in our town. The class was your run of the mill “Interested in Adoption 101″. I showed my wife the class and told her that if she went with me and still was not interested then I would never bring it up again. I saw it as a way to at least move the conversation a little or wash ourselves of it. Well we went to the class which was great. We walked out and got in the car in complete silence. The whole time I was trying to figure out what to say to measure her interest. As we sat down she looked at me and said “So I guess we just fill this form out and write them a check to start the process, is that what you got out of it?” There was never ever a question from that point on about if she wanted to adopt. She jumped in with both feet.

For those wondering….My wife couldn’t imagine her life now without our 4 year old son and our lives going any different than they did. To this day our adoption has been the greatest thing we have ever done.

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